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Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 19:20:03 -0000

Yeah u literally found out the hard way lol.

But at the age tht ya'll were, it was only normal for to want the johnson especially if she didn't get it the way she needed it frm her dude.

U probably made her climax and it felt good so she didn't knw tht in the end she was hurting u and the friendship.
And I'm sure u wasn't her first so she was probably on a quest for better johnson.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Blacksand — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 10:35:51 -0000

Yeah, I found that out the hard way.

I understand that. True friends are hard to come by. I understand why you would say that completely.

I don't know. It seemed like all the time. She was always calling me and coming over. She lived 6 houses down from me. She would knock on my window in the middle of the night and I would let her in. She was always on me. It was a good 6 or 7 months before I realized what her motives were. She just wanted my body. I have more to offer than that.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 19:52:28 -0000

Damn her! Women can be so damn selfish sometimes.

I alwys choose friendship over any type of chemistry. Thts just me.

How many times did ya'll do it b4 u realized her real motives.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Blacksand — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 09:59:04 -0000

Good morning beautiful, me too. What makes it so bad is that it could've been avoided and we could still be friends. I guess she had alterior motive from the beginning. Loving eyes are the last to see. So sad for me.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 00:43:47 -0000

I'm sorry Black. I wish she would've been more honest and upfront with her intentions b/c I knw wht its like to loose a good friend over sex.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Blacksand — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 10:35:54 -0000

Good morning beautiful, you have been missed. No, I would not have gone there. I had genuine feelings for her. I wanted her to be number 1. She wanted something different. She hurt me very deeply.

If she would have been upfront with me I would've hated her statement but respected her for her candor.

Yeah, she was my best friend. I wish she did. I miss her company to this day. She was a joy to be around.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 05:08:20 -0000

I have a question Black. If she wud have been honest with u up front about her true intentions, do u thnk u wud have gave in sexually?

The reason why I ask is because I was in a similar situation and I told the guy upfront tht it was only sex and he still caught feelings afterwards and wanted a relationship.

Ya'll were in h.s so I'm sure she didn't realize tht if she wud have kept it real w/u tht the friendship could have been saved.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 05:07:39 -0000

Very true. Expectations have a lot to do with things.

Sometimes ppl expect the wrong outcome and whn thngs aren't going as they thgt thts whn thngs go sour.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:34:44 -0000

Yeah but I knew wht he ultimately wanted. He didn't come out and say "hey, we never finished". It was more like "let's hang out" and he wud always say how much fun he had with me even tho it never progressed.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:34:30 -0000

I was also in a similar situation....lol.

Just remember tht everything happens for a reason. Maybe if u would have acted on it then u and ur friend would have less of a friendship.

Who knws wht the future holds. The two of u might get the opportunity to find out :)

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:33:51 -0000

I have a question Black. If she wud have been honest with u up front about her true intentions, do u thnk u wud have gave in sexually?

The reason why I ask is because I was in a similar situation and I told the guy upfront tht it was only sex and he still caught feelings afterwards and wanted a relationship.

Ya'll were in h.s so I'm sure she didn't realize tht if she wud have kept it real w/u tht the friendship could have been saved.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:33:11 -0000

Very true. Expectations have a lot to do with things.

Sometimes ppl expect the wrong outcome and whn thngs aren't going as they thgt thts whn thngs go sour.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:13:30 -0000

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:13:17 -0000

I was also in a similar situation....lol.

Just remember tht everything happens for a reason. Maybe if u would have acted on it then u and ur friend would have less of a friendship.

Who knws wht the future holds. The two of u might get the opportunity to find out :)

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:12:43 -0000

I have a question Black. If she wud have been honest with u up front about her true intentions, do u thnk u wud have gave in sexually?

The reason why I ask is because I was in a similar situation and I told the guy upfront tht it was only sex and he still caught feelings afterwards and wanted a relationship.

Ya'll were in h.s so I'm sure she didn't realize tht if she wud have kept it real w/u tht the friendship could have been saved.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:12:06 -0000

Very true. Expectations have a lot to do with things.

Sometimes ppl expect the wrong outcome and whn thngs aren't going as they thgt thts whn thngs go sour.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 02:45:31 -0000

I was also in a similar situation....lol.

Just remember tht everything happens for a reason. Maybe if u would have acted on it then u and ur friend would have less of a friendship.

Who knws wht the future holds. The two of u might get the opportunity to find out :)

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 02:45:00 -0000

I have a question Black. If she wud have been honest with u up front about her true intentions, do u thnk u wud have gave in sexually?

The reason why I ask is because I was in a similar situation and I told the guy upfront tht it was only sex and he still caught feelings afterwards and wanted a relationship.

Ya'll were in h.s so I'm sure she didn't realize tht if she wud have kept it real w/u tht the friendship could have been saved.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Ness — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 02:44:16 -0000

Very true. Expectations have a lot to do with things.

Sometimes ppl expect the wrong outcome and whn thngs aren't going as they thgt thts whn thngs go sour.

Re: Not All Change is Good

Princess0889 — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 16:21:15 -0000

All of this can be summed up into one single word "EXPECTATION ". If the expectation of something more is not there for both of them then it will end as it began. Where most people (especially women) go wrong is they think that the action (kiss, touch or even sex) means more than it really does. Sometime things are what they are no more no less

Re: Not All Change is Good

Blacksand — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:58:10 -0000

Good morning family, how goes it? There was one young lady when I was in highschool who was my girl. I mean we were tight. There was always sexual tension there but we never acted on it until one Saturday I was at her house hanging and she told there was one thing she wanted to do today. I said which is? She leaned over and kissed me. Her mom was at the grocery store and her big sister wasn't home. It was on. She was my first and I still Love her to this day. It changed our friendship. We were never the same. I wanted her to be my girl. She wanted me to be the guy on the side who satisfied her because her boyfriends couldn't. She always came back to me because I gave her that good good. I had to stop though, it was not beneficial for me. We are no longer best friends. Taking our relationship beyond friendship made me realize after I became a little older that what feels good to you isn't always best for you. I miss her too...

Re: Not All Change is Good

DMarie — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 00:57:02 -0000

Well it depends on the people and situation. I'm in a similar situation myself back in high school I had a guy friend (we were kind of like bff's).Well timing was always off either he was with someone or i was so we just decided to remain friends. However there was always this sexual tension there, we never acted on it b/c of our friendship.

I moved on (3 year relationship) and me and my friend have reconnected and all we can think about is what if. Now I wish we would have acted on it then so that I would at least know. I'm not the creeping type so i cant do nothing about it now; but its like i can feel him through a txt. Damn him lol

Re: Not All Change is Good

HeadMistress — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:10:38 -0000

Most of the time it does change things but there are rare times when it doesn't

Whether it changes for good or bad all depends on each person's expectations

If the expectations are the same (let's say its just a physical thing on both sides, no strings attached) then there's usually no problem but when those expectations don't match (one person wants more than a physical thing and the other doesn't) that's where things can get unpleasant

The optimal situation is one like yours where, if you've never talked about it before hand, you both had the state of mind to stop and rethink it before things went to far